Thomas Gerard Lynam

Thomas Gerard Lynam, 75, of Norwalk, CT, passed away on February 27, 2026.

He is survived by his wife of 54 years, Linda (nee D’Acunto) Lynam, his daughters Jennifer Bendett (Wilton), Laura Lynam (Norwalk), and Susan Lynam (Norwalk), his brother Edward Lynam (Stamford), sister Sheila Lynam, son in law Lee Bendett, and grandchildren Conor Bendett, Kate Bendett, Declan Bendett, Mark Lynam and Lucy Lynam, who were the joys of his life. He is also survived by his sister-in-law Jacqueline D’Acunto Graham, and many nieces and nephews. He was predeceased by his parents James and Julia (nee Jordan) and sister Mary Sinclair.

Born on June 5, 1950, in Tullamore, County Offaly, Ireland he spent his younger years in Birmingham, England and Tullamore before moving to Stamford in 1959. He attended St. John’s Parochial School, King School and later graduated from Stamford Catholic High School in 1968. He was a lifelong parishioner and former altar boy at the Basilica of Saint John the Evangelist, where his mother had devoted many years of her life.

Thomas worked as soon as he could beginning as a paper boy for the Stamford Advocate followed by various jobs including caddying at Wee Burn, painting fences at Cummings, turning off the lights at Scalzi Park, delivering cars at Avis, and changing the light bulbs at St. Joe’s Hospital.

He became a U.S. citizen in 1970, and after he and Southern Connecticut University mutually parted ways he was soon drafted into the Army and served in the Vietnam War. During one of his leaves, he married Linda and welcomed baby Jennifer. They would continue their family with Laura and Susan, while both finishing their college degrees, where he graduated from UConn.

Later he would deliver fruit baskets for Rogerio’s and bartend at The Blue Note, The Moosehead, and The Post where he was affectionately called “Doc” by many. “Tommy” was a master joke teller, quick with a witty line, delivered with a glimmer in his eye and a knowing smirk.

His career in medicine began at St. Joseph’s Hospital as an ER tech and continued later when he attended Yale School of Medicine Physician Associates Program graduating in 1989. Thomas worked in the ER of Bridgeport Hospital for nearly 30 years and most recently with Liberation House. In true Tom Lynam form, his daughter had to call to inform them he’d be missing work, for the only acceptable reason he would allow being that he was dead.

He was a faithful Yale Football fan, and a highlight of his life was getting a coveted parking spot inside the Bowl. You could find him every Fall with his buddies near gate 24. He continued to cheer for the Giants despite their record, as well as the Yankees, Knicks, and Celtics. Tom loved texting with Declan about the latest sports news and was in awe of his ability to remember sports stats. He was a rabid fan of UConn basketball and spent years ardently following the Big East.

But, he was the biggest fan of us, cheering “Let’s go baby” starting with his girls on the softball fields and stages to his grandchildren on the fields and courts. One of his proudest moments was when Conor played Taps at the Wilton Veterans Day Remembrance in 2017.

For the last 25 years, Thomas’s biggest enjoyment was his week in Saratoga for the horse races where the grandkids all learned the thrill of victory and the agony of Grandad’s eternal defeats. He took particular pride in Kate’s handicapping prowess that began at age 4.

The best part of his day though was coming home and seeing Mark and Lucy. Whether it was shooting hoops on the patio, showing them how to take care of the yard, or giving the best whisker kisses and hugs, he loved every minute with them.

Above all else, Thomas loved Linda. He once said “I shrink in her glow.”

Thomas started each day reading the obituaries just to make sure he wasn’t in it. He appreciated the storytelling of a well written one. We hope this does him justice.

Visitation will take place on Sunday March 15th from 1:00 PM to 4:00 PM at the Nicholas F. Cognetta Funeral Home & Crematory, 104 Myrtle Avenue, Stamford, CT . Burial will be private.

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